Blog 10 Week 10

            The section in this week’s readings that meant the most for me to delve into was the death of one’s parent (page 625).  I was born in 1983, and both of my parents were born in 1946, making them almost 69.  I remember growing up I felt like I had the old parents, especially until I got to college.  All of a sudden (perhaps the distinction might be the mature setting and education) I noticed new people I met here and there had parents that might be in their late 70’s now.  My mom was 38 when she had me, and I am now nearly 32.  I am nowhere close to having a family. 

            I have complained plenty to my close friends about my parents over the years, but the truth is, I don’t know what I will do when they pass away.  I, like most people, love their parents, flaws and all……  They are both in great health, my dad is still working as a pharmacist, and my mom pretty much keeps him in line and spends her days with their young Corgi.  My older brother actually moved back home to get his accounting degree.  My parents might not be in the best shape, but they are definitely mentally and physically active.  My mom even this past year took up yoga. 

            Our book describes that when a parent dies, often surviving children redefine their relationships.  To me, this seems code for: you will fight over who gets what, and will try to maintain contact after dividing assets.  But I am rather cynical.  My dad is an undiagnosed hoarder (he gets upset at having to get rid of anything, even an old (like 20+ years) leather sofa with the cushions falling apart) so ultimately, if he passes away there will be so much stuff to go through.  He has a thing with magazines, newspapers, really, any media.  He keeps old keyboards, monitors, computers, printers, etc.  I have had a hard time getting him to let me reclaim some of my belongings that I have brought over for storage the past decade or so. 

            Another thing our book describes is the loss of one’s mother when a woman herself is pregnant.  I mentioned above I am 32 and am nowhere close to starting a family (pretty sure I want at least one child).  I think currently my greatest fear is not having a child in time for my mom to meet her grandchild (and in full capacity so she can actually remember and enjoy).  But you can’t force having a child (well, you can, but I am going to wait at least until I am 35 and certain).  Another huge fear I have is not knowing as much about my parents as I would like.  One example is I have 2 brothers, but I had another brother who died before I was born, complications with eye surgery (or something like that).  The last time I asked my mom about it was when I was 8 or 9, and she got choked up, so I haven’t brought it up since because no one wants to make their mom cry. 

            The last paragraph in that section describes feelings after a parent dies.  One might accept their own mortality better, and realize that they themselves aren’t immortal or invincible.  Another feeling might be a relief that their suffering is over.  In addition, if the parent suffered a lengthy illness (the book uses Alzheimer’s as an example), the parent-child relationship can decrease, and when the physical death occurs it might feel like a second death. 

            I appreciate the idea of end of life being thought of as more of a thread, but it doesn’t make it any less sad to think about.  One thing I am thankful for is that I really do see a lot of attributes of both of my parents in me, which when I was younger I denied and was horrified by, but now I have learned to embrace and accept.  I think it will help me to stay connected to my parents even after they have passed on.   

Blog 9 Week 9

The article this week, "As good as it gets?" by Mike Edwards of AARP magazine I found to be interesting enough to focus my second to last post on.


The article focuses on the Dutch, and their retirement years.   All in all, a Dutch couple can receive almost $45,000 per year after the age of 65.  To my surprise, this is less that an American couple can receive on social security, though 100% of Dutch citizens have government insurance for medical and home nursing care.  Approximately 45 million Americans have no health insurance at all.  The Dutch also pay little to no copayments for prescription drugs, while many Americans have to pay out of pocket for prescription drugs. 


The main quote in this article which I found to be of particular importance "the European attitude is, we're all in this together and sooner or later we're all going to become older and need some help.  The U.S. attitude is, we're all rugged individualists and we're going to take care of ourselves, not others."


A good question I wondered the answer to is "how do the euros stretch further than our dollars?"  According to a professor at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, we pay a lot more than others for the same stuff.  Costs for hospitals, drugs and physicians services can be up to 50% more expensive in the U.S. and our status of health isn't necessarily better than theirs.


It looks like the costs aren't going down for the Dutch, nor the Swedes.  Even a single family of two that has an income of about 60,000 still is in the 25% tax bracket, and more than 50% of those taxes goes toward the universal pension fund.  Currently, there is a 12% tax on food and as much as 40% on new cars.  Since it seems that very few complain about what they have to live on, the taxes are probably a fair deduction from their day to day living expenses.  Especially since the health care is almost 100% covered (at least for important/non cosmetic procedures).  The really jeopardy for retirement benefits will be the people living and willing to pay for it, especially as birth rates decline across western Europe.


 

Blog 8 Week 8

             I found the section in our text 'Alienation and Burnout' to be of particular interest this week (refer to page 437).  The first sentence ‘No job is perfect; there is always something about it that is not as good as it could be’.  I completely agree with this statement, and at the same time I am forced to recall movie clips of the empowered woman in her perfect job calling all the shots.  Why can’t we find perfection in a career we choose or a life we live?  Is that human nature? 

            Our text defines alienation as a feeling that results in workers when their work seems meaningless and their efforts devalued or when they see no connection between their own work and the final product.  I have felt this way many times in my life, not just related to work, so I consider myself an expert.  If people who supervise you or are at the level of your boss, and they don’t make eye contact or couldn’t care less who you were, what your name is, or what you do, you begin to resent them and your job. 

            I found it disconcerting that this section focused in particular on assembly line workers management.  The assembly line workers are apparently more likely to feel alienated, especially since their jobs could become automated by machines.  As far as white collar management and executives, usually those jobs are not exempt or unionized, so I don’t know of a time when they were ‘safe’ from layoffs.  Either way, an employee that feels alienated feels like they are not trusted (perhaps to do their jobs, or just in general).  In my own experience, if I feel distrusted or second-guessed, over time I begin to resent what I do and where I work.

            Burnout, is defined in our text as a depletion of a person’s energy and motivation, the loss of occupational idealism, and the feeling that one is being exploited.  I interpret the last part of this definition as the feeling that you are being used.  In a relationship if you feel used you might resent the person you are with or bear ill-will, neither of which are healthy.  How would an employee express to their supervisor that they feel used?  The state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion (love the typo on page 438 in the fifth edition, below definition of burnout, ‘zexhaustion’) can be endless, so how does one change their mental attitude or address the need for change? 

            Teaching, social work, health care, those in occupational therapy and the military are more prone to feeling ‘burnout’ from their jobs.  Specifically, people in these occupations deal with people’s complex problems in stressful situations.  Day after day, these problems take their toll.  I like how our text summed it up: that disillusionment and exhaustion set in.  How many times have most of us felt that way?  Like 2000 times right????  (fyi I am not even thinking about being a parent here, so parents out there, I am sure you surpassed this number)

            I almost can’t stand when the only answer to the problem is stress-reduction techniques.  I mean for real.  Why do we have to change, why can’t the job stop being so ridiculously stressful???  Also, I get that sometimes reevaluating how you view a certain situation can help, but why isn’t there some sort of compensation for the stress we deal with at work (probably due to the fact that stress is subjective.  I know there are plenty of people who don’t stress as much as me or the average person, and their reward shall be a longer life J  )

Blog 7 Week 7

            Once again I have found one of the articles this week to be of particular interest.  Should You Stay Together for the Kids, by Walter Kirn, really struck a chord in me.  I grew up with two parents who would fight (verbally only, more just arguing) in front of my brothers and me weekly.  When I was a teenager, I do recall hearing them arguing after I called it a night, when I would go to my room and studying before falling asleep or just trying to fall asleep in general.  They didn’t fight every night, but I do remember thinking “why don’t they just get a divorce?” which I am glad they never did.  Oddly enough, I think they work, even codependent or dysfunctional as they are.  They are nearing 70, so at this point, I think divorce is out of the picture, and they still do things together as a couple.  They just argue.  Ok, on to the article…..

 

            When Joanne, the initial example in the article said “before I met my husband, I sabotaged all my other relationships with men because I assumed they would fail”.  To me, that was a powerful thing to say.  She really took her fathers’ leaving as an example for what is inevitable, and was just trying to avoid that pain herself.  Obviously she did find happiness as she states “before I met my husband” (though this article is from 2000, so that is 14 more years for something to have happened, but I try to be an optimist). 

            I was surprised, and also not so surprised (can that happen?) to hear that there are about a million children that are the product of divorce every year.  I am surprised because that number seems high, but when I think about perhaps two children households, that number is more like 500,000 couples split up, which seems about right.  Also, it seems as though discussion for the children happen mostly in the court, as the couples most likely are not on good terms.  

            The article focuses on the children of divorce who are grown now, and are still hurting from the pain of divorce (I still can’t believe how dramatic I was about wishing my parents would get a divorce, because that would make all my problems disappear).  The article points out that children of divorce “suffer depression, learning difficulties and other psychological problems more frequently than those of intact families.”  I would like to point out that children of mothers with postpartum depression who fail to gain their child’s attachment can also suffer from depression, and also those with permissive parents (which some households who stay together but are divided end up being like).  Children who are born to mothers who don’t take proper care of themselves during pregnancy can suffer learning challenges (among other things), and other psychological problems are all over the board (at least in the U.S.).  Children are stated to struggle when they start to develop more mature relationships, that they are gun shy, and look for love in strange places.  So did I.  There must be so many more factors than just the home environment, such as the parenting style, types of friends, temperament, 

            In many ways, a child that is raised in a single parent home, could even be stronger than the child of a two parent home.  I think of it as having to earn one’s keep, or pay one’s way.  A child who doesn’t have all of the advantages of having parents who are together (sometimes this means more $) will have to work harder, which in many ways I wish I could have learned many more lessons when I was young about money and responsibilities, because I am 31 (closer to 32) and still trying to figure out my life. 

            I am not religious, so I think that many of these children’s view of a fairy tale or nothing, isn’t such a bad thing to go for.  Why the heck not.  I know a few really happy couples, some approaching 10-15 years married, some with kids, some without, and these guys truly are wonderful couples.  Very social, but yet really tuned to what their partner wants.  These are the lucky ones.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that people should have high romantic expectations, but I think if you find it, holy moly, hang on to it for as long as you can!!!!!  I again am so glad and thankful for my parents staying together because I know it would have been worse if they were apart.

Week 6 Blog 6

1.             What I found to be very interesting this week was one of the articles we read.  The article, Teens Before Their Time suggested that there are many possible reasons for earlier puberty in girls.  According to the author, Michael Lemonick, some researchers believe the chemicals used to make plastics are at fault.  Bisphenol-A (aka BPA) and phthalates were linked to early puberty in Puerto Rico in the 1980’s.  Girls as young as 2 were growing breasts and pubic hair. 
               The article gives an example of a young girl who was put on hormones to stop the onset of puberty.  One young girl, who first showed signs of breast development at the early age of 4 was put on medication several years later.  According to her parents, once she was on medication to slow the onset of puberty, had horrible mood swings.  Her parents soon stopped the treatment, and by age 9 she had breasts and her period. 
               Another young girl began growing pubic hair at the age of 5.  Blood tests ruled out conditions which could pump out puberty-triggering hormones.  By age 8, this young girl had full growth of her pubic hair.  Her parents stopped letting her change swim suits in front of other children, or go to any slumber parties (out of fear of her embarrassment I suppose). 
               Studies that have been done only seem to focus on Caucasian or African American girls.  Among Caucasian girls, 1 in 7 develop breasts or pubic hair by age 8, and among African American girls, nearly 50% develop breasts or pubic hair by age 8.  The article does suggest that since from the mid 1800’s to the mid 1900’s, the average age girls started their periods fell from age 17 to age 13, and this is likely due to improvements in nutrition. 
               However, early puberty has also been linked with being overweight.  This could be because fat cells produce leptin, a hormone that is necessary for the progression of puberty.  Some chemicals can also mimic hormones that help the development of the reproductive system.  Another suggestion is that all the sexualized messages in our society could be causing early development (one comparison is made to a dog salivating at the mere sight of food).   
              
2.             I got my period at the age of 10, in 1993.  About a year before I started having to wear bras.  I was not a skinny girl, and I did watch anything I wanted on TV, and back then there was no attention given to BPA or phthalates.  Now, on most plastic containers I buy I see “NO BPA” stamped all over them, and on shampoo bottles quite often I see “phthalate-free”.  Perhaps, if these chemicals continue to lack from our plastics and hygiene products, maybe over time we will see a rise in the age puberty starts in girls.
    
3.             I would like to ask the author about the Puerto Rican girls who developed at the age of 2.  The article really didn’t discuss much detail about these cases.  I find myself constantly going back and thinking, trying to imagine how I would feel if my toddler got boobs.  Also, I would ask what age these young girls got their periods.  This is a fascinating topic, and also a scary one, because even though I am not a parent, I would want my little girl to stay a little girl for a reasonable amount of time, and first or second grade is too early.

Blog 5 Week 5

1.              The main topic this week that really made me stop and think, was parents who act more like their child’s peer or best friend, and not the parent.  This week’s article “Parenting: The Lost Art” was an interesting read.  The article starts out describing the commonplace of violent movie ads in today’s TV that many children and young adults watch.  Surprisingly, the article presents that half of all parents have no rules about what their kids watch on television (and it goes on to say this is most likely a low estimate).  Furthermore, two-thirds of American children between the ages of eight and eighteen have their own televisions and one-third of those are under the age of seven.  Alternatively, the article also states that most parents care about their child’s moral and social development, but that parenting has become a lost art.  Honestly, I believe that parenting has just changed. 
               We have become a society that relies on two incomes to make ends meet and television as an artificial babysitter.  It is absolutely fascinating to see how young children adapt and know more about how to operate the tablet or PC than the parent.  Educators are finding it increasingly difficult to do their jobs more and more however.  Our text describes the amount of time a child spends watching TV and interacting with family (pg. 278).  The time watching TV usually outweighs time spent engaging with the family and therefore there is more time for TV ads to influence and persuade young viewers. 
    
2.             My brothers and I often came home alone after school in the 1980’s and early 1990’s to an empty house in a suburb of Atlanta, GA.  I remember watching the move Predator as early as the age of eight, as well as Critters.  In reality, even earlier I was watching these movies but being forced to leave the room during the “inappropriate” parts.  My dad had Playboy magazines down in the basement (though I am certain he had no idea we knew) and I remember looking thru them before I hit puberty.  Through my years in therapy as an adult, I know my mother is technically a narcissist.  But, I have no doubt, my parents did the best job they knew how to do and at the time.  We were on and off food stamps when I was young, and finally moved to Seattle, WA when I was eleven because my mom’s dad had just passed away, and my grandmother was all alone. 
               My mom was a better mom than her mom, and I know this due to my relatively recent conversations with my cousin (her nephew) and his wife (who happens to be a therapist).  I no longer blame my parents for why I am self-conscious, have ADD (and depression/anxiety) and have only had one real close friend (thanks Rachelle) my whole life.  I found after a while it was completely pointless to try and place blame, but rather I realized it made me who I was (which thank goodness is pretty awesome and well educated).  Whether or not this makes me supremely popular or rather unknown and a wallflower, I am unique, special, spirited, shy, a loner, an introverted attention seeker (weird, I know) who just wants to be loved.  I am 31, single, female.  I am not likely to change much as far as personality goes.  I like who I am, but that doesn’t mean I don’t envy other people and the way they are.  But, I do recognize, that they too, are products of their society, genealogy, family and environment.  Bottom line, now halfway through this lifespan psychology course, I can accept that there are many factors in determining who we are and what we are like, not just watching violent movies or having sex in early teenage years.  Really, that is the beauty of it all, and what makes us truly unique.  If it were as simple as 1+2=3 (in terms of personality or behavior), life would truly be boring or repetitive.
    
3.             If I could really ask an honest question to either the author of this week’s article or the author(s) of our textbook, I would really consider asking the pro’s and con’s to the damage control parenting described in the article.  I have heard ever since I was a teenager of parents who would let the “boyfriend” sleep over.  To this day I am convinced it is still a myth, but the evidence is out there, not of the benefits, but that of the parents who rather it would happen under their roof versus a car in the parking lot.                       

                                                  

Blog 4 Week 4

1.             I was so interested in the article this week, “Medicating Young Minds”.  I have ADD, anxiety/depression and a touch of OCD.  I wasn’t diagnosed until my mid-twenties and have just recently found a medication that seems to help me be my best, and I am 31 now.  This particular article is so interesting because it emphasizes how difficult a decision it can be to put your child on medication, and also to find the right mix of medications, especially for those who suffer from bipolar or manic disorders. 
               I never knew just how plastic our brains were when we were children and adolescents.  There haven’t been any studies on long-term effects on our brains when we medicate at such a young age.  Credible studies need a control group and an experimental group.  This means that in order for any long term studies to happen, some children who really need medication might not receive it (control group receives the placebo) and this is a risk that is seemingly not worth taking.  But isn’t that the sacrifice we make to improve and further science?  Tough decisions, and not all who deserve the trial medications will receive them.  These hard decisions improve the data, which in turn helps the medication receive FDA approval that can help millions. 
               There is controversy behind medicating children who show syptoms: are we hindering them from learning how to cope with the stresses of daily living and normal childhood issues such as self-esteem or peer pressure?  Is it better to allow them to fully show symptoms before administering medication?  All the experts agree that medication alone should not be the only solution.  Talk therapy or other counseling while taking medications will maximize effectiveness. 
    
2.             This week’s material has simultaneously been the most interesting and the most challenging for me thus far.  For years I suffered through getting in trouble for talking out of turn, talking too much, trouble paying attention, procrastination…..the list really could go on and on.  I somehow made it through college with a bachelor’s degree (though it took me 8 years going part-time and not every quarter).  I came from a family that expected you to attend a four year university right after high school, and if you didn’t then you were considered the rebel or black sheep of the family. 
               In my years at the university, I never knew why I was unable to focus, study or do homework.  I began drinking and smoking pot (what I now know to be self-medicating) to bare the pain I was in.  When I was almost done with college my mother revealed to me my aunt (her sister) tried to commit suicide and was starting medication for depression.  A few years after I graduated, I finally found out what I was going through was something that could benefit from professional help.  I saw a therapist for several years, and only then was I aware of my condition(s).  I was on and off different medications for a few more years, until I found that a low dose of Sertraline HCL (basically Zoloft) that helped me feel like I was myself.  I still question sometimes whether I need an increased dose, or if I am just having one of those days, but I do know that being on medication, for me, helps me cope (with life) better.  It basically feels like my highs and lows are more stable, (less “high” and “low”).
              
3.             I would like to know why regular M.D.s are allowed to prescribe these drugs.  Most doctors are in and out of the room in 5 to 10 minutes (not necessarily their fault, they usually work for a corporation which emphasizes quick turn-around).  How can they possibly evaluate and diagnose properly?  Should this even be legal?  I currently see a nurse practitioner every six months to get a refill on my medications, and appointments are minimum 30 minutes!!  When you first are being diagnosed, it is an hour to hour and a half appointments, and you check in at three months.  There is so much information out there and yet so little regarding this particular issue, so I really need to emphasize my question earlier: why are regular M.D.s allowed to prescribe psych medications? 

Week 3 Blog 3

1.             Both articles this week were very interesting reads, but the article “What’s The Difference Between Boys and Girls?” really got my blood pumping.  I had never really thought about the differences between boys and girls, other than boys are aggressive, girls are sweet.  This article discusses the biological and cultural involvement in behavior of boys and girls, though there were not many direct examples given.  If I could meet with the author and ask her anything, I would ask her if she didn’t buy her son the doll because she didn’t want to waste money on him destroying it, or if she just didn’t want to buy him the doll due to society’s expectations of what is gender appropriate. 
               Even before they are born, boys are more active in the womb than girls, and within a year of birth they prefer mechanical type toys whereas girls prefer dolls or things they can snuggle.  The biology plays a big role in the first months of life, and it turns out boys are so active and boisterous due to having about 5 times more testosterone than girls.  If testosterone were reduced or removed from boys, they would become more sweet, and if it were raised in girls, they would become more rambunctious or competitive.
              
2.            Tomboy.  I learned that word in fifth grade after overhearing a group of boys when I was walking by.  I was mortified.  I didn’t even know what it was, I just knew, me being a girl and being called a (tom)boy was not a good thing.          I remember wondering why I had to have the next Barbie or Barbie accessory, and wondered what my brothers could possibly see in G.I. Joe figurines.  Even though I had Barbie dolls, I still took to other less girly toys such as Slinky’s and silly putty.  I also liked to play with my brothers’ Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles collection, with connectable sewers and the works.  I’m guessing this is because the movie was popular at the time.  I never really played with other “boy” toys.
               I may have loved my Barbie dolls and even at one point in time, My Little Pony was something I was into, but I hated to wear girly colors or clothes.  I preferred blue and green, maybe purple if I was in to it that day, and certainly no dresses or skirts.  My point is I really didn’t fit the societal expectations of what it is to be girly.  So I was called a tomboy.  Awesome right?  No.  There was nothing more humiliating for a young girl to be called at the time, other than perhaps fat.  But this was the late 80’s, and nowadays I’m sure there are a plethora of mean names children are called.  I also tend to embrace the term Tomboy now.
               I don’t recall getting any grief from my parents about playing with the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle figures, nor did my little brother when he played “house” with me.  I was always a little rough around the edges, and my little brother was always very sweet and shy.  After reading this article I was amazed at how I grew up and how it varied quite a bit from the expectations of society.  I am thankful my parents let me be who I wanted to be for the most part.  To this day I still don’t like pinks, pastels or florals, and I still really like blues and greens. 
    
3.             I would like to know more about individual children studied.  I think that would bring a little more interest to this article, and give it some much needed substance.  I would also like to learn more about when a child starts to think about the differences between boys and girls.  They might group themselves accordingly, but are they doing it consciously or unconsciously?

Blog 2 Week 2

1.             I don’t have children.  About 5 years ago I was sure I wanted to have kids.  I am now 31, single, and have completely forgot about or misplaced my ticking clock from 5 years ago.  I still think I want to be a mom, but not being in a relationship or having found someone even close to what I would want is making me rethink things.  That being said, I still have time, and have always been of the “if it is meant to be it is meant to be” mentality.
               I found the following sections in chapter 2 to be an interesting read, especially since I have never been through the process of childbirth:  Approaches to Childbirth (pg. 71-72), Adjusting to Parenthood (pg. 72-73) and Birth Complications (pg. 73-76). 
               After reading these sections, first of all, I hope I have a pain-free(ish) natural delivery if I ever have children.  I think it is interesting that a woman is more likely to experience less issues when she knows what the heck is going on during her pregnancy and labor/delivery.  I guess that makes sense, but also, it would seem to still be tough for a first time mother (like is that a contraction or am I dying?). 
               I never thought about anesthesia and the delivery of the baby.  I have always only thought about the pain in regards to the anesthesia.  The section on approaches to childbirth states that less is more when it comes to pain medication, and that natural techniques are preferable.  This is due to the woman not being able to use her abdominal muscles during the delivery and thus, special equipment might need to be used that could potentially harm the baby.
               Another scary occurrence which is more and more common in our society is postpartum depression.  A week or maybe two of crying, irritation, resentment, that’s normal.  Babies need mothers who pay attention, are nurturing, who talk and cuddle with them.  If they don’t receive this type of care for their first couple weeks it shouldn’t have long term effects.  However, if the mother continues to be apathetic and distant, the child becomes at risk for depression and other behavior problems.  On a personal note, I would be extremely likely to suffer from this condition, so at least I have a shot at recognizing my own behavior and seek help before it has damaging effects on my baby. 
               In general, women who are healthy when they get pregnant typically have normal pregnancy, labor and delivery.  It is more common to have complications when there is inadequate prenatal care or malnutrition.  A child that has birth complications is more like to become aggressive or violent, and for developing mental illness such as schizophrenia.  If a tough life follows (i.e. poverty, adversity, and other hardships) the likelihood increases.
               After reading these sections in detail, I definitely still think I want to have kids, but I will probably be a combination of nurturing/controlling/hyper-focused on what the learn and who they learn it from.  I have heard the saying that we improved upon the previous generation, so I am not sure exactly how I was raised, but my goodness, I would like to be the best mom possible.  And coolest.
    
2. Since I have never had children, I Googled a topic that relates.  I was interested in reading a little more about mother-child bonding, and I researched the following website:
    
   http://www.k-state.edu/media/newsreleases/may11/motherchild50611.html
    
               The brief article is “A powerful connection: mother-child bond plays a role in child’s growth, development”.  In summation, children are very much aware of their mother through the feelings/emotions they relate to her.  Though these roles can be reversed, typically children look to the mother for comfort, and the father for protection.  Mom is the nurturer and Dad is the protector. 
   The mother is a role model for her son because she teaches him respect and about affection and love.  This is true of the biological mother or stepmother.  The mother also plays a role for her daughter so she grows up like her.  Ideally.
               The mother is supposed to tell her children how she feels since they can pick up on emotion quite easily.  Children assign themselves blame if they think their mother is upset, even though in reality she is probably just upset at someone else.  This would have consequences on the child’s development due to the deep connection and trust they have in their mother.
    
3.             I personally would like to learn more about what happens when a mother goes undiagnosed for postpartum depression, or when it continues for more than a few weeks.  It really only because widely talked about in the late 90’s from what I recall.  I think it is potentially one of those cycles that can be nearly impossible to break if the issue isn’t brought up by the mother or the father or even the grandparents. 
               If I had unlimited time and energy and money I would like to study the development of monkeys at the 1 to 3 week interval, and if their mother is showing signs of postpartum depression.  I would imagine it is possible for them to suffer from the same condition, or at least something like it.  I would really like to know if children raised with a mother who has postpartum depression grow up without empathy.

Blog 1 Week 1

1.             I began reading the article for the week, “The Identity Dance”, without expecting much.  I have    ADD and it can be hard for me to read a whole paragraph without skimming or bypassing it altogether.  This article’s first page about a pair of identical twins, Sandra and Marisa Peña grabbed hold of me such that I was disappointed when I realized this article jumped ahead from page 54 to page 57.  I was left distraught, like I didn’t get to finish the ending to a book.  I’d like to know if the section on these sisters ended on page 54, or whether there was more. 

                  These women are stated to be as alike as any two people can be.  Yet, they are also opposites.  This was the beginning of the second paragraph and I already wanted to know more.  They finish each other’s sentences, one is shyer than the other.  Suddenly, their parents die in a fairly close period of time and one of the them moves away and the other sinks into a deep depression.  Eventually the two find their way back to one another, but one is still suffering from depression.  Sandra and Marisa are in their early 20’s when their parents die.  At the time of the article’s publishing, these young women were 32.  Would they have reacted differently if their parents had passed away in their 30’s?  After reading the first chapter of our textbook (Human Development: A Lifespan View) this brought to mind life cycle forces, about different perspectives of the same event at different periods of time in a life cycle. 

                   I found out in my late 20’s that I have ADD, and also suffer from anxiety/depression.       Don’t get me wrong, I am what I consider to be fully functional and normal.  This article attempts to delve into the root of anxiety/depression (and even alcoholism) and compares two monkeys: one that was raised by its mother, and one that was taken from its mother and raised with other monkeys of it age.  The monkey raised by its mother had the long version of a particular gene and the one raised without its mother had the short version of a particular gene (we are told this gene affects their biology, and that if they have the short gene they are more likely to have anxiety).  The monkey with that was raised without their mother (and had the short gene) was an alcoholic (I know from my experience this is linked with anxiety and depression, especially depression).

                  The monkey results leave one to believe that those monkeys with the short gene that are not raised by their mothers will have a higher chance of becoming an alcoholic (note, it doesn’t cause alcoholism but increases the chances).  Based on what the article described, this may be a clue, but it would only be that, a clue.  I read no mention of monkeys with long genes being raised without their mothers and given a “happy hour”, so it is hard to conclude based on the information given what is really going on.  I would love to ask researchers that conducted the study more information on the monkeys that were written about in the article, and just how many they were basing the research on. 

     

2.               I found it interesting (and a little upsetting, not in an angry way, more in a concerned way) that a monkey raised without its mother (and having a short particular gene) were more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, and alcoholism.  I have been told I’m an alcoholic by a few therapists, though I suffer from some shame regarding that term.  I was raised by my mother, and I have anxiety, depression, alcoholism…..did I just draw the short stick?  If I ever find out I have the long gene that was studied, but yet I still have all the issues that are more likely for a monkey with the short gene, I am not sure how that could make me feel. 
    
    

3.         I would truly like to know more about identical twins who were raised apart and how they compare.  The article focused solely on identical twins who lived the basic brother-brother or sister-sister childhood.  I feel like a study that compared twins who didn’t know each other as they were developing would be fascinating.  My curiosity is piqued because there weren’t any examples of separated identical twins in the article, and I think this could present an interesting challenge for researchers (though, perhaps that is why there were none mentioned, because it introduced too many variables). 

            If I had unlimited time, money and energy, I would love to read and discuss more on lifespan psychology, especially life-cycle forces.  I would research more on the different lifespan age groups such as infancy and toddlerhood, early adolescence and middle adulthood.  I also am curious as to why we have such few years between the early stages of life development and so far between that latter years.  It seems like a paradox or almost counterintuitive since we start off in diapers and (so “they” say) end in diapers.  Although, I suppose, we are merely biological machines that wear and tear down…..